Feigned Religion and Our Marriages

‘Feigned Religion’ DESTROYS hearts and homes; and by extension, marriages and churches.

Some call this the ‘spirit of religion’. However, it’s more accurately stated as HYPOCRISY…or as we will see later, ‘untrue/denying’.

Healing, Restoration, Wholeness


Hyprocrisy (‘strange or destructive aish [Hb.]/fire’) is DETRIMENTAL to our marriages (and thus, our congregations) and too many are suffering needlessly.

Yeshua said ‘unless your righteousness EXCEEDS that of the scribes and Pharisees, you will NOT enter the Kingdom of Heaven’ (Matthew 5:20).   [If you and YOUR marriage have been self-destructing, please private message me about your prescribed roles as Ish (man/husband) and Ishah (woman/wife) as revealed in the book of B’resheet (Genesis).   His Hebrew Revelation in this foundational Book explains so much about our ‘evil’ inclinations and overcoming by His Holy Spirit!  There is a DIVINE FIRE WHO AWAITS to bring about relational healing.]

Judgment begins with the HOUSEHOLD OF G-D (1 Peter 4:17).

Before I go any further, let me express I have taken a scholarly (Scriptural) approach to relationships in general and my marriage is wholly imperfect.  However, since my husband and I are AWARE of our own inclinations that need overcoming as we’ve peered into the G-d’s Instruction (Torah), we have HOPE.

How many ‘christian’ marriages have you watched crumble?

How many of those crumbling marriages seemed to have come out of nowhere?  How many of those were our ‘shepherds’?  How many of our sheep have been deeply affected from the fallout to the point of utter starvation?

That is NOT Besorah (Good News!).

Let’s look at the origin of the word ‘hypocrisy’.

May we, instead, choose to walk in His Healing Anointing (lest we remain anti-Christ/anti-anointing).

Together, let us refrain from the very human tendency to reduce the work of G-d’s Ruach HaKodesh to ‘a temporary feeling’ when HE is offers us ‘Progressive Healing’.

When Yeshua called the teachers/leaders ‘hypocrites’, it did not mean what we have sadly assigned to that word: ‘saying one thing and doing another’ (that is double-mindedness which Ya’akov spoke of). It literally means ‘a pretender with a mask/actor on a stage solely for the applause of MEN’. These teachers/leaders were doing EXACTLY what they believed Torah to be, but they only did it for SHOW (for the applause of men as they were ‘performing on stage’). They took no real care about what the Lover of their souls thought or felt. They grieved His Holy Ruach. This, of course, is the nature of man and rampant throughout our congregations.

When we as leaders/teachers take part in this unholy need of the approval/applause of man, we create a starving, sickly sheepfold. Look around you.  Are you intervening to help save them or inhibiting their very healing? In other words, they see us in action and begin to imitate us, bearing no holy fruit whatsoever.

Feigned Religion destroys marriages because UNFEIGNED LIVING in agreement with G-d’s Word HEALS, RESTORES and MAKES WHOLE.

Did you know there is no strong Hebrew word equivalent for this Greek meaning of ‘hypocrite’ ‘acting/masked’? The closest we get is the word ‘kachash’:

Strong’s #3584: kachash (pronounced kaw-khash’)

a primitive root; to be untrue, in word (to lie, feign, disown) or deed (to disappoint, fail, cringe):–deceive, deny, dissemble, fail, deal falsely, be found liars, (be-)lie, lying, submit selves.

It is very interesting to note that its LFM (law of first mention) is:   Genesis 18:15: “Then Sarah denied, saying, I laughed not; for she was afraid…”

There’s more though.  Let’s see about another Hebrew word that may lend even MORE insight:

Strong’s #2611: chaneph (pronounced khaw-nafe’)

from 2610; soiled (i.e. with sin), impious:– hypocrite(-ical).
Brown-Driver-Briggs Hebrew Lexicon:


1) hypocritical, godless, profane, hypocrite, irreligious

Part of Speech: adjective

Relation: from H2610


This word is used 13 times:
Job 8:13: “of all that forget God; and the hypocrite’s hope shall perish:”
Job 13:16: “also shall be my salvation: for a hypocrite come before”
Job 15:34: “For the congregation of hypocrites shall be desolate, and fire the tabernacles of bribery.”
Job 17:8: “and the innocent against the hypocrite.”
Job 20:5: “of the wicked is short, and the joy of the hypocrite but for a moment?”
Job 27:8: “For what is the hope of the hypocrite, though when God”
Job 34:30: “That the hypocrite That the hypocrite reign not, lest the people be ensnared.”
Job 36:13: ” But the hypocrites in heart heap up wrath: they cry when he bindeth”
Psalms 35:16: ” With hypocritical mockers in feasts, they gnashed upon”
Proverbs 11:9: ” A hypocrite with his mouth destroyeth his neighbor: but through knowledge be delivered.”
Isaiah 9:17: “on their fatherless and widows: for every one is a hypocrite and an evildoer, and every mouth”
Isaiah 10:6: “I will send him against a hypocritical nation, and against the people will I give him a charge, to take”
Isaiah 33:14: “are afraid; fearfulness hath surprised the hypocrites. Who among us shall dwell with the devouring fire?”

To DENY The TRUTH is to be G-DLESS, which is our own DESTRUCTION.

What can we actively do as part of the body of The Anointed One, to help hold our marriages together? Not just our own, but those we love and serve?



  1. Well written Carmen. All it takes is for Satan to distract/destroy/deceive us into taking our eyes off the Lord our Messiah for one moment …. causing our actions to miss the mark/not line up with scripture … that The Lord intentionally uses to keep us safe under His wings/shadow.

    No obedience equals no peace. Know God then know shalom.

  2. “When we as leaders/teachers take part in this unholy need of the approval/applause of man, we create a starving, sickly sheepfold. Look around you. Are you intervening to help save them or inhibiting their very healing? In other words, they see us in action and begin to imitate us, bearing no holy fruit whatsoever.”

    Holy smokes, this nails it! They imitate us. We imitate them. Holy smokes! You bet your butt God expects a lot from those to whom He gives a lot. If I could see every minute of my life played back, would I/myself want to imitate me?! Mother of God is this convicting.

    The incredibly wonderful reality for me as I read what you post is not that I am supposed to be perfect, but that I have the Power of Perfection, the Ruach Hakodesh, within me and, as such, I can walk towards and in HIS perfection. Praise be to God I can rest on His shoulders as He carries me through this life I call mine.

    Thank you, thank you for your commitment to Him which enables your commitment to us who yearn for and seek His Truth!

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